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What Is Stopping You From Being Successful?

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Do you have any idea what is stopping you, what is holding you back from reaching your dreams? What is stopping you from reaching the heights that you have always dreamed of?

Well, it could be a lot of things, from not believing in yourself, to not taking action, not having the skillset, but I think that the most common thing that is stopping us from not reaching our full potential is fear.

We fear failure, we fear taking that first step, we fear losing everything and we fear what others will think.

Is It Fear That Is Stopping Us From Reaching For Our Dreams?

what is stopping you

To achieve success and greatness, you have to be willing to grow as an individual and improve yourself.

But, in order to grow as an individual and improve yourself, you must be willing to expand your skillset and be willing to have many experiences that can improve this skill set.  This means that you cannot be afraid to challenge yourself, take reasonable risks, and step outside of your “comfort zone.”

If you are fearful, you will not reach the greatness you are capable of achieving.

Many people are fearful and hesitant to step outside of their “comfort zones,” preferring to do things that they are familiar with.

They prefer to do activities and stay in fields that they are comfortable in, that they know they do well in.  Few people prefer to step outside of those zones to try something new for a few reasons.

One reason is that they fear they will not do well with the new activity or challenge.  A second reason is fear of embarrassment because other people may see them struggle with this new activity or challenge.  A third reason is that they fear ridicule from people because they struggle with this new activity or challenge.

Fearing taking on new challenges or activities for any of the above reasons only keeps you from achieving the greatness you are capable of achieving.  By not challenging yourself with new tasks and challenges, you will be unable to grow as an individual because you will not learn any new skills to add to your skillset.

You will continue to excel and be productive in the skills you know, but you won’t expand your skillset to grow as an individual and possibly be even more productive and capable than you currently realize.

Fear is a key reason why you won’t achieve the greatness you are capable of; you won’t even know if you’ll find a better skill you can use to achieve greater goals and accomplishments if you don’t take on new tasks and challenges.

Different Types Of Fear

Fear is always skulking in the background. Here’s a list of the types of fear that hit all of us in our lives at one time or another. The important thing to remember is that you’re not alone in your fear.

  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of making a mistake
  • Fear of criticism
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of abandonment
  • Fear of not being popular

Five Signs That Fear Is Stopping You

Fear is tricky. It can sneak up on you and take over certain areas of your life. The worst part is that you don’t even recognize how much fear can be the cause of what is stopping you from reaching your goals.

But you can’t let fear string you along. It will suck out your courage, hope, and determination.

We’ve rounded up 5 signs to help you determine whether fear is stopping you. We’ll also give you some tips on how to stop it from taking over your life.

what is stopping youReason Number 1:

You Let Others Reactions Affect Your Decisions

When we want to be accepted by our peers, we allow their thoughts to fester in our subconscious.

Unfortunately, this can start controlling how we think, act, talk, and behave. This isn’t how normal life should be because you’re constantly running defense.

The way out of this continuous defense scenario is to renew your conviction. Stop gauging your actions by how people will react.

Instead, focus on what you want to do and why. Setting up realistic goals makes things more tangible and easier to attain.

Only then will you be able to beat out your fear of rejection.

Reason Number 2:

You Tend To Keep Your Opinions To Yourself

Just as the fear of rejection holds you back, fear of criticism is just as powerful. It can impact your actions and your decision.

When you’re always hesitant in your conversations, that means you’re always afraid of what you may say. That can lead to negative results at your workplace and at home. People may get the feeling you’re holding out on them or that you’re being deceptive.

One way to stop this vicious cycle is by renewing your determination and courage. Take some time to tell yourself that everyone deals with fear.

It’s those people who don’t let it get in their way that ultimately reach a state of peace-of-mind in the end. It’s not that they’re braver than everyone else. It’s that they respect their ideas enough to have them be heard by others.

Reason Number 3:

You Stop Yourself Trying New Things

Sometimes the fear of failing at something overtakes our emotions. It makes you reluctant to get involved in challenging work projects.

The worst part is that most times, you don’t recognize it as fear. It can show up as procrastination, self-sabotage, or even full-blown anxiety attacks.

When we’re crippled with this type of fear, we tend to use negative statements that undermine our abilities. We tell ourselves things like, “I’m not good enough to part of that team” or “I’ll never be as good as they are.”

These kinds of statements further reduce our self-esteem, not to mention our faith in our abilities.

You’ve probably heard how some people write motivational messages to boost their confidence. While it may sound too good to be true, it does work.

Try it for yourself.

Hang up one or two on your bathroom mirror or fridge. Seeing those positive messages day in and day out will slowly start to have a positive effect on you. You’ll begin to trust yourself more and enjoy a more positive self-image than ever before.

Reason Number 4:

You Avoid Doing The Right Thing

We put too much emphasis on peer pressure. In many circumstances, it can almost make us almost sell our souls for fear of suffering potential backlash.

It could be that you don’t want to step on anyone’s toes, or you simply want to be accepted by those around you. So, what do you do when you have to choose between right and wrong? Nothing.

You become someone who forgets their principles. It’s the ultimate fear of any retaliation or repercussions that may come as a result of your actions.

The way to remedy this is to make a conscious decision to stand up for what’s right. Find the courage you need by allowing yourself to sit with your fear for a few minutes.

You can even write down what your fear entails on a piece of paper, then tear it up or burn it. Once you see your fears going up in flames, you can let them go and move on.

Reason Number 5:

You Settle

You settle in your job, you settle in your relationship, settle in your health. That feeling you get that tells you this is as good as it gets is wrong. That’s fear of rejection taking over your life and running the show.

Settling isn’t being realistic, and it doesn’t do anyone any good. It kills off that beacon of hope that fills us with life and creativity.

Another way we avoid this type of fear is by trying to micromanage everything. We feel we need to be in control of everything all the time.

The way to remedy settling is to take risks. Even if it’s only small risks, it’ll do you a world of wonder.

It’s time to leave the sidelines where it’s safer and step into the game where you belong. Stop worrying about disappointing people, and start dreaming of a brighter, more exciting tomorrow.

Overcoming Your Fears

This article isn’t meant to scare you — just the opposite. Take it as a friendly wake-up call to give you hope and inspiration.

Below are some helpful tips. Use them to help transform fear from something that holds you back in life to something that boosts your courage and drives you forward.

  • Question your values
  • Have faith in yourself
  • Meditate
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Keep a journal
  • Realize that you’re not alone

Therefore, what is stopping you, fear, can stop you from achieving greatness because it hinders your growth as an individual and prevents you from learning more about yourself and increasing your skillset and abilities to handle various tasks and challenges.

Be willing to overcome that fear and challenge yourself with new tasks and challenges that get you out of your “comfort zone.”

What’s stopping you is you, and only you can reverse the cycle and learn to grow from your fear of making mistakes.

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5 Comments

  1. The fear of failure is real and I have to say that I personally experience it. I think it all boils down to the fear of the unknown, the unknown of the future is what I was feeling deep down. 

    I find that journaling has helped me out a lot. When I have time to reflect, I always enjoyed reading about my past self and my current self and how much I have improved. 

    Meditation and being mindful is also important. It is practice, just take it one day at a time and you will see that you have accomplished so much. 

    Self-care is also important for me, I always find a couple of hours of the week to just do something that I enjoy to reduce my stress. Such as, taking a hike, experimenting with new whole foods recipes, catching up with friends, and things like that. 

  2. Now I really enjoyed this post! I myself go through having fear when it comes to the online money making world. With me being very new to the online world of making money I fear every day that I might not be successful in my new journey in life. But I do have the drive to learn everything I need to be great at this. 

    Did you have fears when you first got started? what was your biggest one? What helped you overcome it?

    Thank you for this post I truly enjoyed it! 

    Your Friend, Johnny

    • Of course Johnny. My biggest fear in the beginning was to invest money into my online business, but I have learned over the years that you need to make some investments in order to be successful long term.

      Best of luck with your new business.

  3. We make all kinds of excuses for not stepping out on a limb, or as you said, stepping out of our comfort zone.  For some reason though we don’t like to admit that the true reason is fear.  Fear of all the things you listed in the article and I think the biggest one is fear of ridicule from others.

    My weapon of choice against fear, is faith which is a suggestion listed by you.  We all needed to realise we can’t have new experiences if we’re not willing to experience something new.

    Thanks for the article.  I think it’s an excellent read for persons still struggling to admit that fear.

    • Thanks for stopping by Roberta. You are right we are all so scared of what others will think, but it shouldn’t be like that.

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